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Monday, February 26, 2007
Friday, February 23, 2007
Refocusing after setbacks
How many times have you started a diet, a new way of thinking, or tried something new and then a setback occurs and you just go back to the way you were?
Don't worry, you are not the only one!
Setbacks and difficulties occur all of the time - they are a natural activity of life.
There are two ways of facing difficulties.
You either change or alter the difficulty or you can alter yourself to be able to deal with it.
Deal with difficulties correctly and it will enhance your confidence, deal with them incorrectly and they can do some serious damage to your self worth.
Your response to issues and difficulties
When you are faced with any setback your ability to deal with it can be turned around into a position of strength by asking yourself positive empowering questions.
There is an unwritten rule that says:
Ask your mind a stupid question and you will get a stupid answer!
So, if after setback you ask yourself something like
"Why does this always happen to me, I never have any luck?"
Your mind will probably come out with:
"Because you are useless and good things do not happen to you!"
Sound familiar?
Instead, if you ask yourself a positive empowering question like:
"What did I learn from this setback for next time?"
Your mind will kick into solution mode and help.
Here are some rules and things to think about when setbacks do occur:
* Acknowledge that it has happened. Don't hide from it. These things happen. So what?
* What positive empowering questions can you ask yourself?
What is good about this situation?
How can I make the most of this situation?
What can I learn from it?
What are the facts about this problem?
How can we make it a successful outcome?
* Acknowledge that setbacks occur to everyone and you are not being singled out.
* View them as a challenge to overcome rather than an issue or problem
Think about the negative dis-empowering thoughts that you think on a regular basis after a setback.
What new empowering questions could you ask yourself to give some better answers!
Write these down now and make them a habit.
Don't worry, you are not the only one!
Setbacks and difficulties occur all of the time - they are a natural activity of life.
There are two ways of facing difficulties.
You either change or alter the difficulty or you can alter yourself to be able to deal with it.
Deal with difficulties correctly and it will enhance your confidence, deal with them incorrectly and they can do some serious damage to your self worth.
Your response to issues and difficulties
When you are faced with any setback your ability to deal with it can be turned around into a position of strength by asking yourself positive empowering questions.
There is an unwritten rule that says:
Ask your mind a stupid question and you will get a stupid answer!
So, if after setback you ask yourself something like
"Why does this always happen to me, I never have any luck?"
Your mind will probably come out with:
"Because you are useless and good things do not happen to you!"
Sound familiar?
Instead, if you ask yourself a positive empowering question like:
"What did I learn from this setback for next time?"
Your mind will kick into solution mode and help.
Here are some rules and things to think about when setbacks do occur:
* Acknowledge that it has happened. Don't hide from it. These things happen. So what?
* What positive empowering questions can you ask yourself?
What is good about this situation?
How can I make the most of this situation?
What can I learn from it?
What are the facts about this problem?
How can we make it a successful outcome?
* Acknowledge that setbacks occur to everyone and you are not being singled out.
* View them as a challenge to overcome rather than an issue or problem
Think about the negative dis-empowering thoughts that you think on a regular basis after a setback.
What new empowering questions could you ask yourself to give some better answers!
Write these down now and make them a habit.
Friday, February 16, 2007
What is Confidence?
It is well worth discussing what self-confidence is, before talking about how you can transform yourself from a person with low self confidence into a super-confident human being.
We as human beings are able to perform many actions and tasks without much thinking, almost automatically as if we were robots, like riding a bike or a car. Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to forget how to drive? You can drive as well you originally did with a little practice even after years of not driving. The reason is that everything related to driving is now a part of your subconscious mind and doesn't need any conscious input. When you have achieved this level in any skill, you are then 'very confident' about it. It's now automatic and you are able to make it happen easier than you can blink your eye...wait, isn't that just another skill?
Doing something so well that you know it like the back of your hand produces a result called 'self-confidence'.
When you think or believe that you have low confidence, you need to be a little more specific rather than encompassing your entire life with the label of low confidence. You may have abundance of confidence in your ability to perform a particular task, but not in another area.
Have you ever heard someone saying, "I never have any confidence in myself"? The more they say this, the more they come to believe it. This label becomes more and more prominent gradually and in the end turns into an excruciating pain. It becomes one's reality and everything else is then filtered through those limited lenses of false reality.
This false reality also destroys one's ability to successfully accomplish many other things which otherwise could be easily done. The 'but' factor creeps in everything. Even if he or she achieves some success, it will be labeled as being 'lucky' ('Oh, I was just lucky'). Talk about digging one's own grave and jumping into it. It's almost a pity to see people doing this to their own lives, so comfortably.
It's almost startling how easily someone can say the above words and then 5 minutes later you can find them doing things only
It can be quite startling how someone will say they have no confidence and yet 5 minutes later you may just be amazed with a new challenging project they have just undertaken or their next adventure trip. They may just seem to do tasks anyone can wreck their nerves upon and still feel they don't have enough confidence.
So self-confidence or the lack of it has a lot to do with how you choose to view yourself. In short, it's nothing more than a perception. It's not necessary for perceptions to be the true reflection of reality. Often these perceptions, even between just a few people, can be amazingly different even though all these people go through the same kind of experience in reality.
Perceptions are filters which we use to process what happens around us all the time. Our perceptions can easily make us feel good, bad or totally indifferent. They can provide us a great boost of never-ending energy or deflate us into an anxious and fearful mass. Our perceptions have some real power we need to get in control of.
Our perceptions are mostly based on our past experiences, both conscious and subconscious. They help us analyze what is happening around us all the time and also enable us to decide their implications. Our mind has the capability to compare quickly any current experience with a past experience and decide and perform the present reaction almost in a blink of an eye. Any good or bad experience therefore, simply helps us decide our
future events, unless the experience is changed consciously.
So now you have a clear clue about the way you can turn yourself into a super-confident human being. Wrong perceptions formed in childhood or during adoscent age can run the rest of the life with feelings of inadequacy and failure. When changed to empowering ones, the same perceptions can raise an individual from the pit of failure to the pinnacle of success.
Any situation may be read in many different ways. We have all had experience completely misreading a situation and then finding it to be totally opposite.
Your first step towards a lasting self-confidence begins by accepting that you may have wrong perceptions in certain matters of your life and about yourself and that a change is required. Many people live their lives trying to display a false confidence and they fail to realize that the terrible fears and limitations they hold inside and never show to others can be dissolved once accepted and then changed consciously.
Have you ever dismissed a positive compliment? From now onwards, never do it again. Always accept a compliment with a sincere 'thank you', never with phrases like 'Oh, it was nothing' or 'Well, it wasn't that good'.
Learn to highlight your achievements first in your own mind and then in front of others through your actions. Let others find how confident you really are with the new you who knows no defeat, no limitation and goes towards success with an unstoppable momentum. That's whom we call a confident human being.
We as human beings are able to perform many actions and tasks without much thinking, almost automatically as if we were robots, like riding a bike or a car. Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to forget how to drive? You can drive as well you originally did with a little practice even after years of not driving. The reason is that everything related to driving is now a part of your subconscious mind and doesn't need any conscious input. When you have achieved this level in any skill, you are then 'very confident' about it. It's now automatic and you are able to make it happen easier than you can blink your eye...wait, isn't that just another skill?
Doing something so well that you know it like the back of your hand produces a result called 'self-confidence'.
When you think or believe that you have low confidence, you need to be a little more specific rather than encompassing your entire life with the label of low confidence. You may have abundance of confidence in your ability to perform a particular task, but not in another area.
Have you ever heard someone saying, "I never have any confidence in myself"? The more they say this, the more they come to believe it. This label becomes more and more prominent gradually and in the end turns into an excruciating pain. It becomes one's reality and everything else is then filtered through those limited lenses of false reality.
This false reality also destroys one's ability to successfully accomplish many other things which otherwise could be easily done. The 'but' factor creeps in everything. Even if he or she achieves some success, it will be labeled as being 'lucky' ('Oh, I was just lucky'). Talk about digging one's own grave and jumping into it. It's almost a pity to see people doing this to their own lives, so comfortably.
It's almost startling how easily someone can say the above words and then 5 minutes later you can find them doing things only
It can be quite startling how someone will say they have no confidence and yet 5 minutes later you may just be amazed with a new challenging project they have just undertaken or their next adventure trip. They may just seem to do tasks anyone can wreck their nerves upon and still feel they don't have enough confidence.
So self-confidence or the lack of it has a lot to do with how you choose to view yourself. In short, it's nothing more than a perception. It's not necessary for perceptions to be the true reflection of reality. Often these perceptions, even between just a few people, can be amazingly different even though all these people go through the same kind of experience in reality.
Perceptions are filters which we use to process what happens around us all the time. Our perceptions can easily make us feel good, bad or totally indifferent. They can provide us a great boost of never-ending energy or deflate us into an anxious and fearful mass. Our perceptions have some real power we need to get in control of.
Our perceptions are mostly based on our past experiences, both conscious and subconscious. They help us analyze what is happening around us all the time and also enable us to decide their implications. Our mind has the capability to compare quickly any current experience with a past experience and decide and perform the present reaction almost in a blink of an eye. Any good or bad experience therefore, simply helps us decide our
future events, unless the experience is changed consciously.
So now you have a clear clue about the way you can turn yourself into a super-confident human being. Wrong perceptions formed in childhood or during adoscent age can run the rest of the life with feelings of inadequacy and failure. When changed to empowering ones, the same perceptions can raise an individual from the pit of failure to the pinnacle of success.
Any situation may be read in many different ways. We have all had experience completely misreading a situation and then finding it to be totally opposite.
Your first step towards a lasting self-confidence begins by accepting that you may have wrong perceptions in certain matters of your life and about yourself and that a change is required. Many people live their lives trying to display a false confidence and they fail to realize that the terrible fears and limitations they hold inside and never show to others can be dissolved once accepted and then changed consciously.
Have you ever dismissed a positive compliment? From now onwards, never do it again. Always accept a compliment with a sincere 'thank you', never with phrases like 'Oh, it was nothing' or 'Well, it wasn't that good'.
Learn to highlight your achievements first in your own mind and then in front of others through your actions. Let others find how confident you really are with the new you who knows no defeat, no limitation and goes towards success with an unstoppable momentum. That's whom we call a confident human being.
Welcome!
If you are searching for a magic formula for building your self confidence, allow me to make your journey a little difficult. Yeah, that’s because I am going to say something that might just blow your brains out.
Ok, here we go….
There is NO magic formula. But YES, there is a proven way using which you can build an unstoppable, unshakeable and literally unlimited self confidence within YOU.
Do you want to make it happen? Do you want to achieve happiness, abundance, power and energy in your life?
Do you want to achieve all your goals? Fulfill all your dreams? Take control of your Emotional, Physical and Financial destiny?
Tell me, really, do you want to master your life? If yes, then welcome to The Confidence Within. Allow me to share my own personal secrets with you using which you too can discover the hidden YOU which knows no defeat, no obstacle and is literally unstoppable.
I have created this blog to share some of the most powerful secrets of building an unstoppable self confidence inside YOU. I have learned these secrets the hard way, through my personal research in the field of personal development. I smashed my head through everything to feel that tinge of self confidence that would allow me to go forward with energy and power towards my goals and get everything that I want in my life.
You see, I am no different than you, or at least not at all someone special or lucky enough to know all this stuff. Most of what you will learn here comes from different (but excellent!) resources, and has been tested by me in my personal search for self confidence. All I have done is to compile the best information available on the internet with due credit to the concerned experts on the subjects, and spice it up with my own personal experiences. Though this information may not be able to change the entire world, but it might just rock yours!
If you have reached here, I don't know what power has brought you here. I believe that there's no coincidence that you are here. In some way, I am sure, you have chosen to be here. This is no any woo-woo stuff I am talking about here, you will know that soon. The point is that no matter what it is that you want, if you have the CONFIDENCE you need, you are going to get it. Yes, believe me, you can BE, DO or HAVE anything that you want, if you have enough confidence to get it.
If you want, you can just pass by and keep your search go on......or you can, now learn the most powerful secrets ever discovered on building total self confidence in your life. Bookmark this blog and come back to it often as I will keep adding great resources here. Make sure you don't miss out on them !.
Ok, here we go….
There is NO magic formula. But YES, there is a proven way using which you can build an unstoppable, unshakeable and literally unlimited self confidence within YOU.
Do you want to make it happen? Do you want to achieve happiness, abundance, power and energy in your life?
Do you want to achieve all your goals? Fulfill all your dreams? Take control of your Emotional, Physical and Financial destiny?
Tell me, really, do you want to master your life? If yes, then welcome to The Confidence Within. Allow me to share my own personal secrets with you using which you too can discover the hidden YOU which knows no defeat, no obstacle and is literally unstoppable.
I have created this blog to share some of the most powerful secrets of building an unstoppable self confidence inside YOU. I have learned these secrets the hard way, through my personal research in the field of personal development. I smashed my head through everything to feel that tinge of self confidence that would allow me to go forward with energy and power towards my goals and get everything that I want in my life.
You see, I am no different than you, or at least not at all someone special or lucky enough to know all this stuff. Most of what you will learn here comes from different (but excellent!) resources, and has been tested by me in my personal search for self confidence. All I have done is to compile the best information available on the internet with due credit to the concerned experts on the subjects, and spice it up with my own personal experiences. Though this information may not be able to change the entire world, but it might just rock yours!
If you have reached here, I don't know what power has brought you here. I believe that there's no coincidence that you are here. In some way, I am sure, you have chosen to be here. This is no any woo-woo stuff I am talking about here, you will know that soon. The point is that no matter what it is that you want, if you have the CONFIDENCE you need, you are going to get it. Yes, believe me, you can BE, DO or HAVE anything that you want, if you have enough confidence to get it.
If you want, you can just pass by and keep your search go on......or you can, now learn the most powerful secrets ever discovered on building total self confidence in your life. Bookmark this blog and come back to it often as I will keep adding great resources here. Make sure you don't miss out on them !.
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